You know as well as I do everyone wants to feel important, needed, wanted and at times even looked up to and admired. In the following lens I will cover things in particular that make men feel good about themselves. The secret things that men want from their partner that they may be afraid to admit or share with you.
The secret things that keep a man longing for YOU, instead of looking elsewhere for what they think will make them happy. This goes much deeper than having a little bag of tricks in the bedroom or a gourmet chief in the kitchen. We are now going to dive into the inter psyche of a man’s true desires.
To capture a man’s heart and prevent him from going astray is much easier then you may think and here is a little hint. It has nothing to do with looks, money, or how well you can do the horizontal mambo! The real secret that we are going to uncover today is so simple that you may find it hard to believe. But it does and it will!!!!! It will work in ways you would have never imagined.
It is true that a man can be distracted by a beautiful woman or the scent of perfume. But they can also be just as easily distracted by the sight of a nice sports car, the smell of a fat juicy steak on the grill, or the thought of an ice cold beer. Do any of these things really lead to a man cheating on his wife or girlfriend? Not usually.
Sure a beautiful woman in a push up bra and miniskirt will usually catch the eye of most men, but the straw that breaks the camel’s back and leads to a man crossing that line of fidelity usually comes from the admiration, respect and ego boost he feels, not the pretty package.
Did you know that most extramarital affairs happen in the workplace? Why is this you ask? Well simply said, work is usually the place where a man is respected, admired and praised on a daily basis. Contrary to at home, where without meaning to the wife or girlfriend usually lacks giving the positive praise and admiration. There is usually more focus on what a man does wrong then what he does well or right. This can lead to a man having a no ego or low self esteem. He may feel disrespected and not admired.
Many times we take our closest relationships for granted. Assuming that our loved ones know how we really feel about them. Neglecting the polite pleasantry we afford to others outside of our inner circle. By making small adjustments in the way you interact and communicate with your boyfriend or husband can eliminate the possibilities of your man going astray.
Positive feed back promotes positive results more often.
What I mean by this statement is, if you complement him for doing even the most mundane tasks, such as taking out the trash or putting away the dishes, even if you had to remind him to do so, he is more likely to repeat this behavior and feel wanted, needed and appreciated.
Asking for his opinion or suggestion for a certain situation and taking that advice once in a while, even if you already know what you are going to do. For instance: Maybe you could ask him, “what color should we paint the living room? Will you help me? You know you did such a good job on the boy’s room, I could really use your expertise in the living room.”
Doesn’t that sound much better than, “You know I’ve wanted you to paint the living room for 6 months now! Do you think it will ever get done or are you too busy watching football and hanging out with the boys?”
Which one sounds like it could be more productive to you?
Look I’m not trying to tell you how to run your marriage, I am just sharing with you what has worked for me and my wife. Once we stopped taking each other for granted it was amazing how fun and for-filling our relationship became. Bickering stopped altogether, I found myself wanting to spend more time with my wife and feel proud about it.
Hey, I ‘m not trying to fool anyone, I know that there are times when my wife strokes my ego on purpose just to get me to do something that she either doesn’t want to do or can’t do. And she is really good at buttering me up when she realizes a task will be difficult for me to accomplish as well, but that’s okay. I know at the end of the day that she appreciates me and what I bring to the relationship.
Thank you for reading my article. If you liked what I had to say or hated it, let me know at soundoff@exbacklove.com. I enjoy hearing any ones point of view or suggestion on this topic. In the mean time, I suggest you read “The Magic of Making Up” by T.W. Jackson.
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