Joe is a workaholic and Jen feels he doesn’t spend enough time with her. Jen is dedicated to their children and spends a great deal of time meeting their needs, but Joe feels she doesn’t spend any time meeting his needs. Do you think this relationship can be saved? Is this relationship doomed to fail? Let’s take a look at how we can go about saving a relationship.
You have to ask, “Is this relationship worth saving?” Although most relationships can be saved with a little hard work, together the couple must agree to make it work. If one of the parties in the relationship has given up and has refused to try any longer, there is little that can be done.
There are many reason why some couples stay together. Maybe its a matter of convenience or for the young children in the house. These are not solid building blocks in which to have a lasting relationship. Both parties have to be willing to make a commitment to saving the relationship if it is to last.
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The next step in how to save a relationship is get to the root the problem or problems in the relationship. I say, “get to the root of the problem” because sometimes the symptom of the problem can be perceived as the problem itself.
Let me give you an example; You can easily confuse an affair as being the cause of a relationship break up. When in truth, the affair is just a reaction to a deeper underlying problem. Maybe the lack of true intimacy forced one of the parties to find intimacy else where. If you don’t deal with the intimacy problem, you may be able stop an other affair but some sort of other problem will eventually pop up.
Dealing with core issues instead of the symptoms is the key to saving a relationship. After you have gotten to the root of the real problem or problems you can start to come together on how to resolve the core issues.
Holding your partners hand while listening to their concerns is a great way to start the reconnecting process. If your partner touches on a subject that is painful for you, remember he or she is not doing this to hurt you. They trying to improve your relationship.
Now that you have the problem or problems out in the open. Together you can come up with a plan of action to work on them. Stick to your plan and take positive step toward a renewed healthy relationship.
Studies have shown that the couples that keep dating though out their relationship, stay together longer and are happier for it. That being said, make a date night. Take turns coming up with new ideas on how to spend your time together, just the two of you. If a weekly date night doesn’t work for you, set aside a small window of time each day to communicate to your partner.
Don’t give up. Remember that saving a relationship is an on going process. Commit to the saving the relationship and take positive steps needed to do so. Except that there is going to be bumps in the road that you will have to deal with. The key is to deal with them sooner rather than later, so as to prevent them festering into another symptom.
This is just one of the powerful techniques used to get thousands of couples world wide to feel the Magic of Making Up.
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Matt