Can I save my marriage from falling apart? Are you asking yourself this question? Are you watching your marriage sink like a hit battleship? Do you know how to stop the bleeding? If you want to stop a sinking ship and save your marriage, you need advice quick. Communication and taking complications out of your life to make things simpler.
Keep an open mind.
It is natural when needing advice to save a marriage to seek advice on how to get you wife or husband to do all the changing. It maybe true that your spouse is the cause of your problems in your marriage but, make sure you take a good hard look at yourself and make sure you’re not making matters worse.
One of the fastest way to doom a marriage is to get selfish. When one or the other parsons in a relationship starts to think the world revolves around them, the ship will sink fast. If this describes you in the marriage then it won’t last unless you start making some changes fast. A marriage is a journey that you should be sharing with your spouse equally as one. It takes sacrificing parts of yourself from time to time for the greater good of the marriage. It really is a simple choice to make, live as one equally or watch the marriage fail.
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Let it out and open up.
Holding things in when under stress or “bottling things up” is not a wealthy practice for anyone and can be highly destructive for a marriage. When you hold things in, then add stress and the regular pressures of life, tension mounts and the next thing you know there is a big explosion. No one can light that fuse better than your spouse. To prevent the big explosion it is best to have a relief valve. A relief valve for me is telling my wife as soon as the time is right, what she did or said that rubbed me the wrong way. I have found that what I heard is not at all what she meant or said. I just relieved some unneeded tension and stress.
Simplicity
As humans, we are a complex. And by nature we tend to make things more complicated than needs to be. We can make big issues out of little ones. If you have been married for any length of time, little issues over time can manifest themselves into big ordeals. You can prevent this from happening by talking about your problem until it gets resolved. Avoid sweeping anything under the rug. That little problem, no matter how petty it may seam at the time can add up to a huge lump that your marriage will trip over eventually.
I make a little check list in my head before bring a problem up to my wife. This helps me evaluate the benefits of possibly causing a fight where there is no need.
*I’m I being too demanding?
*I’m I being too picky?*
*I’m I expecting too much?
*Is this really the right time to talk about it?
*How important is this to your relationship? (be honest with yourself)
Take a step back and see if you can simplify things in your marriage. It may not be as complicated as you thought to save your marriage.
This is just one of the powerful techniques I got from reading the book by T.W. Jackson call “The Magic of Making Up!”
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Matt